Black Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs)

Mocha SMCs

Created by: Mocha SMC LLC (Author) Hi, Pod. First, I want to thank you for listening to this podcast series. As you listen, you may notice areas where the episodes have been edited, and that's by design. The Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast is actually based on an original co hosted podcast, which ran from January 2021 through November 2022. This edited series is a way for me to tease out my individual contributions and those of the guests who generously gave of their time during the interview. These are some of my really good friends who supported me through my SMC journey and I wanted to value their contributions as well. It really mattered to me that the content remained available to Black women considering the SMC path. It also memorializes who I was, where I was, and how the pandemic impacted me as a solo parent. I have since moved on and created a second podcast series that is solo hosted by me. It's called Start to Finish Motherhood. It was created in November of 2022. This podcast series, Black Single Mothers by Choice, focuses on my trying to conceive journey and the early parts of me parenting two children as a solo parent. And Start to Finish Motherhood is a podcast that focuses on parenting and on me coming to terms with my own identity post children. I wanted to take a bit of time with this new trailer to explain that to you because I do respect you as listeners. I hope you support both podcasts, Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood. They're both a labor of love for me. I hope you enjoy. Bye now. read less

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Introducing the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

Introducing the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast

Welcome to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast! This thoughtfully edited series extracts the individual contributions from an original co-hosted podcast that aired from January 2021 to November 2022. The Aisha shares her SMC journey, supported by her close friends, and reflects on how the pandemic shaped her experience as a solo parent. She also introduces her second podcast series, Start to Finish Motherhood, launched in November 2022, which focuses on parenting and personal identity post-children. Join the mailing list and subscribe to both YouTube channels and IG pages for Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood. Enjoy and support these heartfelt projects! 00:00 Introduction and Gratitude 00:04 Podcast Background and Editing 00:20 Guest Contributions and SMC Journey 00:36 Content Importance and Personal Impact 00:48 New Podcast Series Announcement 00:58 Focus of Each Podcast Series 01:17 Respect for Listeners and Final Thoughts

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Introducing: Start to Finish Motherhood w/ Aisha

Introducing: Start to Finish Motherhood w/ Aisha

Aisha, former co-host of the Mocha Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) podcast, is launching Start to Finish Motherhood, a podcast for those thinking or already Single Mothers by Choice, just looking for practical advice for navigating life's relationships. When you decide to have children on your own, it doesn't mean that you're completely alone. Aisha is partnering with you every step of your journey. Start to Finish Motherhood website: Start to Finish Motherhood Connect with me: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StarttoFinishMotherhood Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://youtube.com/@starttofinishmotherhood

*New Podcast Alert* NorthStar GAZE

*New Podcast Alert* NorthStar GAZE

Embark on a transformative journey with the "NorthStar Gaze" podcast, sharing intimate stories from Geo-Stem luminaries. In 1-on-1 chats, explore their journeys and profound contributions to geography and GIS.Inspired by our Telescope program, each episode offers a telescopic view into their lives. Uncover the human side of Geo-Stem, where passion meets purpose, and racial justice is central."The NorthStar Gaze" is your invitation to a Homecoming, where diverse voices paint the tapestry of contributions to geography and STEM. Tune in and let the brilliance of these geo-stars guide you.

S4E10: Parenting the Child in Front of You

S4E10: Parenting the Child in Front of You

In this, the podcast series finale, Aisha sits down with some of the moms she admires to discuss parenting. In this heartfelt episode, our host reflects on the parenting wisdom imparted by their own mother and how it shapes their approach to parenting today. Joined by fellow SMC moms Christina and Jillian, they dive deep into the joys and challenges of raising children as single mothers by choice. The conversation spans topics from respecting children's individuality and creating safe, emotionally supportive environments, to navigating school systems and setting healthy boundaries. Tune in for touching anecdotes, valuable insights, and practical advice. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring content! 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections 00:48 Meet the Guests: Christina and Jillian 03:49 Parenting Philosophies and Early Expectations 09:27 Navigating Discipline and Emotional Health 17:54 Intentional Parenting and Family Values 25:27 Cultural Etiquette and Parenting Reflections 26:50 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges 28:00 Balancing Boundaries and Family Dynamics 29:30 Surprising Lessons in Parenting 33:20 Understanding and Supporting Special Needs 34:47 School and Developmental Milestones 41:33 Building a Supportive Village 45:39 Kids' Career Aspirations and Parenting Joys

S4E9: Ask Me Anything I'm an Open Book

S4E9: Ask Me Anything I'm an Open Book

In this episode, explore the common question of whether to move closer to family and dive into the personal journey of relocating for a vibrant SMC (Single Mothers by Choice) community. Our speaker discusses the importance of assessing your reasons for moving, leveraging your support network during emergencies, and the intricacies of child care. They also shed light on the necessity of estate planning, financial readiness, and the nuances of filling out official paperwork as a single parent. Tune in to get practical advice and heartfelt insights, and don't forget to join our SMC community for ongoing support and connection! 00:00 Should I Move Closer to Family? 01:22 Assessing Your Village and Community 01:56 Leveraging Support During Emergencies 04:51 Finding and Trusting Childcare 07:28 Estate Planning for SMCs 10:04 Financial Readiness for SMCs 12:06 Filling Out Official Paperwork as an SMC

S4E8: Debriefing Twin Pregnancy Challenges and Strategies for When Pregnancy Gets Complicated

S4E8: Debriefing Twin Pregnancy Challenges and Strategies for When Pregnancy Gets Complicated

Join Aisha as she debrief's the challenges and experiences shared in last week's episode about SMCs (Single Mothers by Choice) and twin pregnancies. In this candid discussion, she revisits the medical complexities such as gestational diabetes and intrauterine growth restriction, personal stories of navigating these issues, and the emotional toll they take. Also covered are some practical strategies for balancing pregnancy with work, finances, and childcare. This episode offers invaluable insights and a support system for anyone going through similar experiences. Tune in, share with someone who could benefit, and be sure to join the conversation! 00:00 Introduction and Recap of the Twins Episode 00:52 Personal Pregnancy Experiences 01:08 Challenges of Gestational Diabetes 02:42 Inter Uterine Growth Restriction (IUGR) 04:51 Impact on Daily Life and Work 09:35 Financial Considerations of Twin Pregnancies 11:25 Decisions Around Embryo Transfer 13:27 Physical and Mental Impact of Pregnancy 14:20 Epidural and Labor Experiences 16:06 Conclusion and Debrief

S4E7: The Realities of a Twin Pregnancy

S4E7: The Realities of a Twin Pregnancy

Join Toja and Carla as they share their heartfelt and candid experiences of conceiving, carrying, and raising twins. From the trials of IVF and IUI treatments to the challenges of multigenerational living, both moms open up about the highs and lows of their unique journeys. They discuss the physical hardships, emotional struggles, and the surprising joys of twin motherhood. Their stories are filled with humor, honesty, and invaluable advice for anyone considering or navigating the path of raising multiples. Don't miss this incredible and eye-opening episode! 00:00 Meet Toja and Carla: Our Journey Begins 00:22 Family Dynamics and Living Situations 01:24 The Path to Pregnancy: IVF and IUI Stories 04:28 Discovering the Twin Surprise 06:45 Pregnancy Challenges and Health Complications 18:41 Life with Twins: The Early Months 20:33 Labor and Delivery Experiences 26:17 Financial and Emotional Struggles 29:23 Advice for Aspiring Twin Parents 31:50 Looking Back: Reflections and Encouragement

S4E6: Tips for SMCs Traveling with Infants and Toddlers

S4E6: Tips for SMCs Traveling with Infants and Toddlers

In this episode, Aisha delves into the world of travel with kids post-pandemic. A seasoned traveler, Aisha shares her experiences and practical tips for traveling domestically and internationally, whether you have an infant or a toddler. Get insights on packing strategies, handling in-flight challenges, leveraging local support from SMC friends, and making the most out of layovers. It's all about finding your family's travel groove and ensuring everyone, including mom, enjoys the vacation. If you found these tips useful, subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list! 00:00 Introduction to Traveling with Kids 00:46 First Post-Pandemic Flight Experience 01:37 Tips for Traveling with Infants 02:39 Traveling with Toddlers: What to Expect 04:38 Navigating International Airports with Kids 06:06 The Benefits of Layovers and Road Trips 07:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

S4E5: Yes... You Can Have a Romantic Relationship After Becoming an SMC

S4E5: Yes... You Can Have a Romantic Relationship After Becoming an SMC

In this enlightening episode, we explore the journey of transitioning from a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) to finding love and building a romantic relationship. Join Aisha as she chats with our special guests, Kim and Erica, who share their personal stories of love, dating history, and how they introduced their partners to their children. They discuss the dynamics of co-parenting, the significance of having open conversations, and the importance of staying true to one's path. Whether you're an SMC or considering this journey, you'll find valuable insights and inspiration. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more great content! 00:00 Introduction to Today's Topic 00:14 Meet Our Guests: Kim and Erica 01:42 Dating Histories and Current Relationships 06:11 Introducing Kids to New Partners 11:53 Roles and Responsibilities in Blended Families 20:23 Advice for SMCs in Relationships 23:43 Conclusion: SMCs and Future Relationships

S4E4: The SMC Motto is "Choose Your Hard"

S4E4: The SMC Motto is "Choose Your Hard"

In this episode, Aisha delves into the empowering yet challenging journey of being a Solo Mother by Choice (SMC). Listen as she unpacks the complexities and everyday realities of choosing this unique parenting path. From societal perceptions to financial responsibilities and the pandemic's impact, we cover it all. This candid discussion sheds light on the joys and hurdles faced by SMCs and emphasizes the importance of community and intentionality in creating a nurturing home environment. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring content and support! 00:00 Introduction: The Challenges of Solo Parenting 00:55 Choosing Your Hard: Embracing Solo Motherhood 01:47 Breaking Away from Traditional Paths 03:03 Navigating Social Perceptions and Inclusivity 05:38 Financial and Logistical Realities of SMC Life 10:00 The Importance of Male Influence and Building a Village 12:00 Creating a Peaceful Home Environment 14:03 Balancing Personal and Parental Roles

S4E3: A Black SMC's Perspective on Raising Biracial Children

S4E3: A Black SMC's Perspective on Raising Biracial Children

Let's delve into a thoughtful and deeply personal discussion on the complexities of choosing a sperm donor while prioritizing the preservation of Black identity. Aisha shares her journey from choosing a donor to raising biracial children with a strong sense of Black heritage and cultural grounding. Her candid exploration of race, identity, and the importance of representation in family planning offers invaluable insights and heartfelt anecdotes. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering content! 00:00 Introduction: Envisioning Black Parenthood 02:21 Choosing a Donor: Overcoming Challenges 05:02 Navigating Identity and Parenting 08:08 Addressing Racial Dynamics and Beauty Standards 11:28 Confronting Racial Realities and Responsibilities 15:20 Final Thoughts: The Importance of Racial Awareness

S4E2: Living Brave, the Day-to-Day Realities of Single Motherhood by Choice

S4E2: Living Brave, the Day-to-Day Realities of Single Motherhood by Choice

Join us in this heartfelt episode as we dive deep into the unique journey of being a Single Mother by Choice (SMC). We'll discuss the meticulous planning, the emotional hurdles, and the bravery it takes to walk this path daily. Whether you're contemplating becoming an SMC, or you're already in the midst of it, you'll find solidarity and insights here. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and don't forget to join our mailing list for more inspiring content and community support. 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:07 The Journey to Becoming an SMC 00:47 Deciding the Path: Adoption, Pregnancy, or Surrogacy? 01:16 Family Reactions and Support 01:52 Financial and Emotional Preparedness 02:43 Plan A vs. Plan B SMCs 04:13 Bravery and Honest Conversations 05:47 Navigating Society and Conception Stories 07:56 Concerns and Decision-Making 10:11 Living Thoughtfully for the Future 10:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S4E1: Back to School Already?

S4E1: Back to School Already?

In this engaging episode, we dive into the adventures of summer camps, the chaos of 2022 back-to-school preparations, and the daily hustle of school drop-offs and pick-ups. Join us as we share practical tips on managing summer schedules, embracing the school supply scavenger hunt, and the importance of selecting the right school for your child. Listen in for delightful anecdotes, helpful advice for school choice and preparation, and some humorous moments from the school carpool line. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages, and join our mailing list for more insightful content! 00:00 Finding My Stride as a Parent 00:26 Summer Camp Adventures 01:39 Back to School Preparation 03:21 Navigating School Drop-offs and Pick-ups 06:39 Back to School Shopping Hacks 08:53 Lunchbox Lessons and School Choice Advice

S3E11: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #3

S3E11: Trials of Pandemic Parenting #3

In this final episode of season 3, Aisha discusses the overwhelming experiences many Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) face as their children transition into more demanding school environments. With a dive into the challenges of balancing different developmental stages with career planning, the impact of the pandemic on children's behavior, and the complexities of planning summer activities. Listen on as we share insights on making timely life decisions, from housing to career moves…, and how therapy and community support can help. Don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channels and Instagram pages at Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood. 00:00 Navigating Overwhelm as a Single Mother 02:27 Impact of the Pandemic on Children 05:11 Summer Camp Planning and Juggling Schedules 06:54 Making Major Life Decisions as a Single Mother 09:20 Financial Planning and Home Ownership 10:13 Career Moves and Family Planning 11:01 Closing Thoughts and Community Support

S3E10: Meet an Embryo Donor - Abby

S3E10: Meet an Embryo Donor - Abby

In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha and special guest Abby, founder of Peaceful Parent Sleep Coaching, explore the intricacies and emotional journey of embryo donation. Abby shares her personal experiences as an SMC, detailing the process and evolving relationships born from donation. This heartfelt conversation also covers practical aspects like financial and legal considerations. Don't miss out on these valuable insights! Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list and stay connected. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Host 00:59 Season Overview and Special Guest Introduction 02:28 Understanding Embryo Donation 05:52 Navigating Costs and Legalities of Embryo Donation 11:17 Emotional Aspects of Embryo Donation 14:25 Building Relationships and Defining Roles 20:19 Peaceful Parent Sleep Coaching 22:16 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

S3E9: Part 2: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

S3E9: Part 2: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

This episode opens with a candid discussions on consent, dating, and communication. Join Aisha and a panel of insightful Black Single Mothers by Choice as they continue their conversation on parenting tween and delve into the intricacies of crucial topics such as teaching body autonomy, handling conversations about consent, and the evolving nature of dating as a single mother. With personal anecdotes and valuable advice shared, listeners will gain a deeper understanding of fostering open communication and building a supportive village. Don't miss this enriching discussion; subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, and follow Start to Finish Motherhood on YouTube and Instagram. Join our mailing list to stay updated! 00:00 Introduction to Black Single Mothers by Choice 01:00 Navigating Consent with Tweens 02:37 Empowering Children with Body Autonomy 03:07 Challenges of Raising Black Children 09:24 Dating as a Single Mother 13:54 Building a Supportive Community 17:24 Advice for Single Mothers of Younger Kids 21:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S3E8: Part 1: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

S3E8: Part 1: Sage Advice from SMCs Parenting Tweens

Navigating Tweenhood and Parenthood as a Black Single Mother by Choice In this episode of the Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast, host Aisha welcomes Jennifer, Joy, and Yana to discuss the unique challenges and joys of parenting tweens. From school dynamics and social pressures to the evolving understanding of familial structures and puberty, this episode dives deep into the real, unfiltered experiences of being a single mother by choice. Join us for candid conversations, sage advice, and heartfelt stories. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for the latest updates. Email us at mocha smc@gmail.com with your thoughts and questions! 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:56 Challenges of School-Aged Children 01:50 Meet the Guests: Jennifer, Joy, and Yana 02:59 Balancing Work and Parenting 09:06 Navigating Conception and Adoption Stories 13:30 Handling Technology and Independence 21:48 Dealing with Puberty 26:01 Conclusion and Farewell

S3E7: Expat...An SMC's Decision to Blaxit

S3E7: Expat...An SMC's Decision to Blaxit

Join Aisha in her conversation with Michelle, a 50-year-old single mother by choice and a Foreign Service professional, as she shares her heartfelt and candid journey of raising her son, Aiden, overseas. From choosing the right sperm donor to the logistical challenges of living abroad, Michelle's story touches on the unique experiences and challenges faced by Black Single Mothers by Choice. Her advice on building a supportive village and navigating international living is invaluable. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for more inspiring stories. Email mocha.smc@gmail.com to share your thoughts! 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:54 Meet Michelle: A Single Mother by Choice 01:18 Deciding to Become a Single Mother 03:06 The IVF Journey in Kenya 04:17 Challenges and Decisions in Fertility 06:47 Navigating Life in the Foreign Service 10:22 Raising a Child Abroad 13:46 Building a Support System Overseas 21:00 Advice for Single Mothers Moving Abroad 22:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

S3E6: Checking In... Real Talk

S3E6: Checking In... Real Talk

In this episode, Aisha dives into the importance of mask-wearing for her children, the logistical challenges of parenting solo, and the misconceptions about Black single mothers. Hear how she balances it all while advocating for greater representation and addressing the need for more Black sperm donors. Subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join our mailing list for more empowering stories and tips. For any thoughts or questions, email mocha.smc@gmail.com and consider supporting the podcast through donations. 00:00 Introduction to the Black Single Mothers by Choice Podcast 00:54 Navigating School and Mask Mandates 03:42 Challenges of Parenting Logistics 05:34 Dating as a Single Mother by Choice 08:17 Fertility and Representation in the Black Community 11:24 Concluding Thoughts and Call to Action

S3E5: Meet an Egg Donor - Dominique

S3E5: Meet an Egg Donor - Dominique

In this heartfelt episode, Dominique shares her candid journey of becoming a new mom, navigating postpartum depression, and balancing work responsibilities. She opens up about her egg donation experience at age 21 and the emotional complexities involved. Dominique and the host discuss the stigma around fertility treatments and the need for more representation and openness in these conversations. They also explore the significance of donor relationships and the importance of transparency with donor-conceived children. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on resilience, support, and the diverse paths to motherhood. Don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and Instagram pages, and join the mailing list for more empowering stories and resources. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:29 Challenges of Early Motherhood 00:55 Returning to Work After Maternity Leave 01:44 Journey to Becoming an Egg Donor 03:48 The Egg Donation Process 06:09 Navigating the Emotional Aspects of Egg Donation 20:48 Becoming a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) 22:35 Choosing a Sperm Donor 25:12 Advice for Future Donors and Recipients 27:21 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

S3E4: Cultural Appropriation and Black History Month

S3E4: Cultural Appropriation and Black History Month

Join us for our special Black History Month episode, where we dive into the importance of Black History Month in parenting, being Black women, and as creatives. We explore how schools address Blackness, share personal stories, and discuss cultural appropriation in various industries. We also highlight notable Black figures like Mary Beeches Davidson Kenner and Dr. Percy LaVon Julian. Tune in for an enriching conversation and don't forget to subscribe to the Black Single Mothers by Choice and Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channels and IG pages. Join our mailing list to stay updated! 00:00 Introduction to Black History Month 00:45 Black History Month in Schools 01:51 Engaging with Black History at Home 03:26 Cultural Appropriation: A Historical Context 06:24 Modern Examples of Cultural Appropriation 09:46 Respecting Black Creatives 12:03 Honoring Black Innovators 12:49 Conclusion