Have you had to cancel your wedding due to Covid-19? You're not alone!

If you've had to postpone your big day due to the 2020 Corona lockdown (or for any other reason in the past) you'll understand the complex emotions that come with such an upheaval. Frustration at the lost money, sadness at the lost day, worry at the lost time... when will you start that family? And why should that still matter in the modern day? In Episode 4 of The Thing About That, 2 of our hosts discuss their own personal experiences of cancelling their weddings because of Coronavirus.

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Series 1, Episode 4 length: 42 mins 36 seconds

When and why did you choose to postpone? (02:33)

• Worrying about the health of loved ones or being forced into it by government regulations.
• What does it mean to have a wedding under the current social distancing regulations?
• Communications plan
• What is hardest about losing the big day? Sentimentality, the fear of losing a loved one before the new date, financial implications

The “ticking clock” for women in their 30s (13:10)

• The expectations of women to achieve marriage, children and career progression.
• “All of a sudden life isn’t sprawled out in front of you, there’s a certain order you’re supposed to be doing things in”
• Has postponing a wedding held up baby-making plans?
• Expectations for women to look their best at their wedding.

How postponement changes one's feelings towards the wedding (17:30)

• Are you reevaluating whether to do it at all?
• “If not now, then shall we just not?

The financial implications (23:14)

• Difficulties that come from the government allowing things but encouraging against them.
• Problems with compensation and sticky details of wedding insurance.

Taking stock and re-evaluating (28:54)

• Is this an opportunity to reevaluate wedding choices?
• What absurd OTT things have you spent money on for your wedding that you would take back if your could.  “Wedding-mania” / Party-mania
• “A pressure to facilitate other people having memorable moments!”

The original day (33:39)

• What will you do on the would-be day? Is it worth celebrating or is it a day of mourning?
• The frustration of only seeing the happy people on social media.
• Hettie explains why she has gone totally silent on social media. The weight of everything going on in the world (from coronavirus to Black Lives Matter).

When will this sadness pass? (40:00)

• Will you feel better when your original wedding date is passed?
• Hettie and Becca raise again the idea that the weddings may never happen now.

Check out Becca's previous wedding stationary work here and here and here, and if you'd like to commission her to do yours, get in touch.

Thank you for listening!