After 60 episodes of Do the Work, I’ve decided to take a break from podcasting for an undetermined amount of time. I have loved creating and sharing this podcast with you, and I’m so grateful for everyone who has listened, shared, and given feedback for this series. Please continue to re-listen and share these episodes, because there are always more things to learn and practice as we grow and change. Real, lasting relationships rarely happen in an instant. Emotional work is the hardest work there is, but it’s so worth it. If you aren’t already, follow us on social media to get updates on where "Do The Work" is headed. Thank you, and goodbye for now!Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we are joined by a familiar face on Do the Work, Elizabeth Jaggi! Success is something most people spend their whole lives trying to reach, but what does success actually mean? How do you measure your own success? How do you measure others’ success? Is success internally or externally earned for you?When we link our value and worth to “success,” we may be missing out on the empowerment and peace that comes when we are growing and measuring our success internally. It’s a natural human need to be seen, heard, and valued, but no amount of what others tell us will fill the holes that will be left if we don’t believe in our own value and worth.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Liz:Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The way you communicate matters. Language has the capability to uplift, inspire, and bring joy. But it also can hurt. Shaming language hurts you and those you speak to. It’s destructive because it can deeply damage self-esteem, create feelings of shame or inadequacy, and hinder healthy communication and relationships. It can perpetuate cycles of negativity and harm rather than fostering understanding and growth. Where does it come from? Why do we do it? And how can we change? Find answers to these three crucial questions in this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me as I delve into the nuances between judging and being judgmental, and as I explore the fine line that separates fair assessment from harmful criticism. Also, discover with me how our perceptions and actions shape our interactions with the world around us.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The goal of Do the Work is to help people connect with others and God, but also ourselves. And yet, it’s so easy to fall into self-neglect when we are trying to connect with others. Dr. Edith Eger includes self-neglect as one of the main mental prisons in her book, “The Gift.” We have to learn to love and care for ourselves in order to have healthy relationships, to take care of our basic needs—mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual.What is self-care? What is self-neglect? How do we move from neglect to care? Find all these answers in this insightful episode with Kim Rash and Kristi. Kim is a wife, mother of six, and grandma of three. She loves the outdoors, is passionate about traveling, people, healing, and truth. She also has a podcast, “Seek with Kim.”Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Kim:Instagram Website Seek with Kim podcast Edith Eger’s “The Gift” “The Body Keeps the Score” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fear can feel paralyzing. Dr. Edith Eger talks about fear and hopelessness in her book, “The Gift,” and today we’re joined by another mental health professional who also has lots of experience working with these common emotions. Is fear learned or can we be born with it? How can hope grow? How do I step out of fear and hopelessness? All these questions might be answered for you in today’s episode. Lesley Stout, a certified mental health counselor, has worked as a crisis therapist, a residential treatment clinical therapist, and is now a private therapist in Farmington, UT. She specializes in trauma and relationship conflict, and says “there is no cookie cutter standard to determine or dictate what is trauma, grief, loss, or a significant disturbance and what is not.” She loves being a mom and aunt.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Lesley:InstagramFacebookPsychology Today profileOur review of “The Gift” by Edith Eger Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Jill Manning is back on Do the Work to talk about developmental maturity. Dr. Manning is a successful licensed MFT specializing in sexual betrayal, and although developmental maturity plays a huge role in that area, it also affects each of us every day in big and small ways. Tune in to learn what developmental immaturity versus maturity look like, the key traits we’re born with, and the key issues that stem from all the big and little traumas that inevitably happen as we grow and develop.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Dr. ManningInstagram Website LinkedIn Pia Mellody’s “Facing Codependence” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt wronged or unfairly treated? Whether it's a minor disagreement or a significant betrayal, the sense of injustice can trigger feelings of resentment, leading to thoughts of bitterness and animosity towards the person or situation involved. This is a universal experience— a fundamental aspect of human nature that contributes to the development and expression of resentment across cultures and societies. Join us as we delve into the complexities of resentment: its origins, its effects, and the transformative power of forgiveness.Mark Jaggi is a husband, father, and studier of religious thinking and practices. He is a successful finance professional and is highly educated, but the most important things to him are the relationships with others and his own personal improvement.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Mark:Instagram Facebook LinkedIn“True Love” by Thich Nhat Hanh Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve already read and reviewed one of Dr. Edith Eger’s books, and “The Gift” is just as good. In her first book, “The Choice,” Dr. Eger tells her story of surviving the Holocaust and Auschwitz, as well as her experiences becoming and working as a psychologist. In contrast, this second book of hers is “a practical guide to help us identify our mental prisons and develop the tools we need to become free.” Join Kristi, Kaitlyn Howell, and Michelle Rasmussen in a review of this book that is chock-full of life-changing truths.Whether you read the book or not, we invite you to follow along over the next many weeks as we cover each of the mental prisons and corresponding tools that Dr. Eger highlights in “The Gift.”Listen to our review of “The Choice” by Edith Eger Get “The Gift” by Edith Eger Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with the guests:Kaitlyn’s Instagram Michell’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Do the Work! This week Kristi is on her own as we take a look at one of the most difficult but most important mental prisons—victimhood. Living in this prison is a paralyzing and powerless place to be. The key out of this prison is learning to accept and surrender to reality, and in the process becoming more self-aware, empowered, and resilient. Doesn’t that freedom sound amazing? Give this episode a listen for some help getting there.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookEdith Eger’s “The Gift” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Do the Work! Today we’re working towards identifying the twin pitfalls of avoidance and rigidity. These two mental prisons often hold us back from living our most fulfilling lives. Elizabeth Jaggi joins us to look at the roots of avoidance and rigid patterns and discover strategies to break free and embrace a life of growth and freedom.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with LizInstagram Read “The Gift” to learn more about mental prisons Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this insightful podcast, we delve into the nuanced distinction between shame and guilt, unraveling how these emotions impact our lives differently. Explore how the weight of secrets can keep us trapped, hindering personal growth and relationships. Join us as we uncover the power of vulnerability and the liberation that comes with shedding light on our hidden truths.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with TylerInstagrams:https://www.instagram.com/therapy.brothers/https://www.instagram.com/the.wandering.therapist/Website Women's retreat Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I know you are, but what am I?” This phrase may take you back to elementary school, or to a similar thought you had last week. We’ve spent the last month talking about relationships. One of the most crucial principles in creating and maintaining any relationship—romantic, familial, or friendship—is forgiveness, and that’s what we’re talking about today with Ganel-Lyn Condie. Ganel-Lyn is a motivational speaker and author. She’s dedicated to her family, faith, and inspiring others. She’s the host of popular TV and radio shows, “Talk of Him” and “The Middle,” and has several published books.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Ganel-LynwebsiteInstagram Books, talks, and other productsThird Hour PodcastInstagram YouTubeTalk of Him PodcastYouTube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are two kinds of people in this world—those who make friends everywhere they go and those who don’t. Just kidding! Forming and maintaining relationships looks different for everyone—but being hard-wired for connection is universal. In this conversation, join Kristi and some friends she met a couple weeks ago while on vacation as they talk about intro/extraversion, trust, honesty, and many other things that are crucial for friendships. Mike and Traci Fox live in Colorado with their blended family of 6 children. They both love soccer, pickleball, traveling, and their grandkids.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookTraci’s instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s Valentine’s Day. Maybe you’re going on a fancy date tonight or maybe you still have to whip up dinner to feed your kids. Maybe you have a Galentine’s party, or maybe you are sitting at home alone. Regardless of your relationship status or how you’re feeling during this day of love, this episode is for you. For this brief episode, walk with me through what love actually is, and how we can choose love in each of our relationships.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookThis is How Your Marriage Ends book Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Love and lust are two powerful and often intertwined emotions, yet they are vastly different in how they affect our minds, relationships, and ability to connect. This month in Do the Work we are focusing on relationships, and many will be celebrating love on Valentine’s day. Kicking off this theme is our guest Steven Croshaw, a husband, father, grandfather, and co-founder with his wife of S.A. Lifeline, a non-profit providing hope, education, and resources related to pornography and sexual addiction recovery. Tune into this episode to hear his story and take on the difference between love and lust.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with StevenSA Lifeline SA Lifeline’s story of Steve and Rhyll Pathway to Recovery Podcast Dopamine Honesty Book The Big Book: Alcoholics Anonymouse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Kristi flies solo as we wrap up our month of change. We’ve talked about change in multiple areas of life—physical, emotional, relational. Have you noticed any change in your own life this month? The truth is, even though we’ll move on to other topics in this podcast, change will continue to happen around us and through us. Change is a daily choice and a lifelong requirement.Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookThe Mountain is You book Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re a couple of weeks into New Years Resolutions. How are your resolutions feeling? Are you finding yourself reverting back to old patterns? Change is difficult and uncomfortable, and there are tools to help you get out of your post New Year’s rut. This episode’s guest is Brannon Patrick, a husband, therapist, co-creator of Therapy Utah, and a fellow podcaster. Although he specializes in treating addiction, Brannon is passionate about change in so many aspects of our lives, and shares some valuable tools in this episode for embracing and accepting change—including honesty, community, hopefulness, and getting educated.  Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with BrannonBrannon’s PodcastRESOURCES: Therapy UtahBOOKS: The Body Keeps the ScoreFeelings Buried Alive Never DieThe Mountain is You Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s our month of change, and change isn’t possible without vulnerability. Although often perceived as weakness, vulnerability is crucial for connection and a catalyst for innovation and creativity. Change cannot happen without vulnerability. So why do we avoid it? What is so scary about being vulnerable? In this episode with Mary Scoresby, dive into the answers to these questions and more. Mary is passionate about community, family, and tennis and pickleball. Her happy place is having conversations that really matter with people she loves, which is evident in the thoughts and insights she shares in this conversation with Kristi. Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with MaryBrené Brown’s Dare to Lead Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a world filled with constant distraction, we’ve learned to avoid feeling pain and discomfort by leaving the present. In this episode, Joe Morton—father, husband, athlete, author, and host of “A Cup of Joe Podcast”—shares his passion for using mindfulness to find peace, awareness, and clarity. Whether through meditation, mindful breathing, or simply paying attention to the present moment, mindfulness can empower you to better navigate emotions, forgiveness, healing, decision-making, connecting, and your overall experience of humanity. Connect with Kristi:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with Joe:Listen to A Cup of Joe Joe’s Instagram account: Books on mindfulness: The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle Stillness Speaks, Eckhart Tolle As a Man Thinketh, James Allen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.