John Thurman's Resilient Solutions Shortcast

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Are you looking for faith-friendly insights on how to manage stress, anxiety, or depression? Maybe you are searching for ways to improve your relationships or just looking for ways to become more effective in your day-to-day living. John Thurman's Resilient Solutions Shortcast may be what you are looking for. With an average running time of 10-12 minutes, John combines his skills as a senior-level clinician, Work-Life Consultant, and ordained minister. The information in Resilient Solutions can improve your personal life, enhance your relationships, and enrich your business endeavors. CONTACT JOHN. Email: john@johnthurman.info or text him @ 505-306-0395 or call 505-343-2011. read less
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Seven Ways to Help Your Child be Strong and Resilient Pt 1
24-03-2023
Seven Ways to Help Your Child be Strong and Resilient Pt 1
Point # 1There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others. Point # 2We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power to make a difference in this world. Point # 3Seeking to achieve in your personal life and contribute to the betterment of others is not an easy path.“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”Robert Kennedy.We must both model and teach our children that anything worth doing or having is worth potentially failing for.Point # 4How do we operationally define failure? First, failure is never final. We must instill in our children that failure is not a lack of achievement. Failure is determined by the lack of effort or refusal to try. Life is filled with scary and sometimes tough decisions; they need to learn how to make the best decisions given the information they have at a given moment.Don't allow decision constipation to steal your capacity to make wise, life-enriching decisions. Refuse to become a victim of failure. “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”The Apostle Paul – Philippians 3:14 ESVLink to article
How to Overcome Old Wounds with Resilience
13-02-2023
How to Overcome Old Wounds with Resilience
ResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity, trauma, and low self-esteem and to be strengthened.My friend, trauma survivor, and fellow author Danielle Bernock says, “To be resilient is the ability to thrive instead of being traumatized.”5 Tips for Dealing with TraumaTip # 1 – Supervise your self-talk.Tip # 2 – Stop comparing yourself to others.Tip#3 – Stretch your limiting beliefs.Tip # 4 – Build up others.Tip# 5 – Get help.Here is a link to the blogBlessings,John Thurmanwww.johnthurman.infoEmail: john@johnthurman.infoUpcoming Events with JohnFeb 26th - Dealing with Anxiety - Sunday, February 26th @ Grace Church 9:00 and 10:30 am.  Church is located @ 6901 San Antonio NE, ABQ. This is a public eventMarch 3rd and 5th - Marriage and Family Conference - Evangel Christian Center 4901 Montgomery Blvd NE, here is the link. This is a public event.March 25th - Book Signing - Bibles Plus 2740 Wyoming NE Times TBAApril 1st - Mental Health for Church Security Teams - Private event
How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective Pt 1
25-01-2023
How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective Pt 1
Every one of us has been injured by life. How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective is the first of a three-part series to give you some tools to help you become more resilient as you work through life’s challenges with the Lord’s help.Four Reasons Men Don’t Deal with WoundsThere are several reasons but in this article, I will focus on four common reasons that men struggle with their wounds.First, culture has trained us to believe that real men don’t cry.Second, masculinity is under pressure. Current cultural nuances and the innuendos of “toxic masculinity” in the media have scared our daughters and caused many young men to fail to embrace their masculinity.Third, sadly, some men feel that church life is irrelevant to their needs.Fourth, because many men don’t have a support system, many will bury their woundedness. The result is various addictive behaviors, drugs, gaming, sexual addictions, food, pleasure, drinking, and even hyper-religious involvement. For many men, if this woundedness is not addressed, it will significantly negatively impact their lives and relationships.Food for ThoughtC.S. Lewis once wrote, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains…[Pain] is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world”- C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain.The Lord is more concerned with our character than our comfort; at times, He chooses to use calamity to refine us.Link to the Blog
How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1
05-01-2023
How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1
How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1: The first three stages.When I was a child,  I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NLTTo grow as a man of faith, you must understand the stages of masculine development. This is the first part of a series that will show you a map as you continue your journey.A man of faith is someone with a sense of purpose. He knows he has a life mission and understands what it means to be a man. This understanding comes from his faith, but it also comes from the relationships he has with others. He understands a well-lived life is in the context of a community.A Christian man is a man made in the image of God. If married, he is responsible for being the head of his home and leading his family. He is a man who is faithful to his wife and children, and he makes time for them every day. A Christian man is a man who knows he is created for greatness, but instead of chasing after it, he chooses to live humbly as an example to others.In this article, my heart desires to encourage you to be the man God called you to be. To help you to become a God-loving, courageous, resilient man with an enhanced ability to lead, love, serve, and leave a legacy in this world. To do this, I will review one roadmap to understanding some developmental markers we men face.As with any "journey," there must be a starting place. Here is an overview of the process.The Beloved SonThe Cowboy StageThe Warrior StageHere are four general things about a real warrior, whether single or married.        1. A warrior is trained        2. A warrior is humble        3. A warrior is accustomed to sacrifice       4. A warrior is connected to othersRead the articleJohn Thurmanjohn@johnthurman.info505-343-2011www.johnthurman.net
How to Be A Man of Faith in 2022 Pt 1
10-11-2022
How to Be A Man of Faith in 2022 Pt 1
There was a time in recent history when masculinity came with a clear purpose of being a provider-protector (e.g., warrior, contributor, sole breadwinner). Many of us grew up imprinted that men are designed to serve. We are to serve our family, church, the Lord, community, and nation. We were raised with a sense of mission and a sense of purpose. Today, according to Warren Farrell (The Boy Crisis 2018), “Many men are experiencing a purpose void.” Young and old alike seem to be wandering through life without a sense of mission. Due to multiple factors that, for the sake of space, will not be covered in this article.In my coaching and work-life mentoring practice, one of the alarming shifts I have seen in the past ten years is the sense that many men seem clueless about their roles, purpose, and mission. I believe the Scriptures guide us clearly on what it means to be a man. I hope you and I will be challenged to look at where we are in our lives and “get back on mission” if we need to.As I begin this series, I will give you a rapid overview of his first major best-selling book, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. Don’t be surprised if these remind you of some of the original values of the Boy and Girl Scouts. The bullet points are his; the commentary is mine.Here are the first 6 Rules, be sure to check out all of this blog.Stand Up Straight and hold your shoulders back.Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for.Befriend people who want the best for you.Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.Don't let your kids do anything that makes you dislike them.Get your own house in order before you criticize others.Get in touch with John.  Call: 505-343-2011, email john@johnthurman.info, or send him a message at www.johnthurman.info
The Importance of Having a Man in the House
07-09-2022
The Importance of Having a Man in the House
Why Dads Are Important1.              School Achievement.  Grades are better when dd is around.2.              The 3 Rs. The more involved his dad is, the more significant the boy's increase in verbal intelligence and the better both boys' and girls' math and quantitative abilities are.3.              School Dropout Rates. The more years children spend with no or minimal father involvement, the fewer years of school they complete.4.              Employment. While boys from two-parent homes are two times more likely to be employed as young adults.5.              Suicide. Living in a home without a dad correlates more with suicide among children and teenagers than any other factor.6.              Drugs. Father involvement is at least five times more important in preventing drugs than any other influence. In addition, it is a more potent determining factor than the child's gender, ethnicity, or social class.7.              Homelessness. Around 90 percent of runaways and homeless youths are from fatherless homes.8.              Bullying. The American Psychological Association found in its 153 studies that father absence predicts the profile of both the bully and the bullied: poor self-esteem, poor grades, and poor social skills.9.              Victimization. Children between ten and seventeen living without their biological dad were likelier to be victims of child abuse, significant violence, sexual assault, and domestic violence.10.       Violent Crimes. Every 1 percent increase in fatherlessness in a neighborhood predicts a 3 percent increase in adolescent violence.11.           Rape. Among rapists specifically assessed as raping out of anger or rage, 85percent came from father-absent homes.12.           Power and Mobility. Children born poor and raised by both married parents have an 80 percent chance of moving into the middle class or above; conversely, children born into the middle class and raised without a married dad were almost four times more likely to end up less fortunate.13.           Trust. The more contact children have with their dads, the more quickly they make open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in their lives.14.       Empathy. The amount of time a father spends with a child is one of the strongest predictors of the child’s ability to empathize in adulthood.[i] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25518696/Source: The Boy Crisis  Check out the blog
How to Overcome Anxiety Before It Overtakes You
14-07-2022
How to Overcome Anxiety Before It Overtakes You
According to the March 1-3, Harris Poll, the annual “Stress in America” survey found that more American adults rated inflation and the Russia-Ukraine situation as major stressors than any other issue in the poll’s entire 15-year history.American adults reported feeling emotionally overwhelmed and fatigued, with 87% agreeing it “feels like there has been a constant stream of crises without a break for the past two years.”What is the Antidote?Gratitude is the thankful appreciation of things received, whether tangible or intangible. It helps you and me connect with something outside ourselves, often transcendent and more extensive than we are. Being grateful for people and other blessings makes me more content and helps me rewire my brain to be more optimistic.Expressing gratitude is probably the most effective way to push fear, anxiety, and sadness out of your mind and replace it with good things.Here are four benefits of actively expressing gratitude.Here are the four benefits of actively expressing gratitudeThankfulness will boost your immune system, helping your body fight off infection.Gratitude significantly lowers your risk of causing or amplifying mental health issues.A thankful attitude strengthens you when you are under stress.Thankfulness develops resilience and helps you flourish when others fail.So, what are some gratefulness exercises you can begin today to build your resilience, improve your health, and lower your stress?Here are five ways you can use gratitude as a powerful stress buster.Read More
9 Great Ways to Enhance Your Listening Skills
29-06-2022
9 Great Ways to Enhance Your Listening Skills
Here are four critical justifications for listening to your wife’s input to accept her influence.1. Her insights will most likely give you increased clarity. Women generally are more mindful of details, intuitive concerning the feelings of others, and may be in tune with certain unique aspects of a given situation. Her particular views might add a refreshing richness and depth to your perspective.2. Accepting her influence will enhance your wisdom. I honestly wished I’d caught on to this early in our marriage. The Old Testament book of Proverbs is filled with truth about the difference between being a person of wisdom or a “fool.” As you read through the 31 chapters, you will discover a few important themes. One of the primary themes is a willingness to listen. When you and I listen to our wives, we honor her and our Creator, and we grow in wisdom. Disregard her input, and you could be acting like a fool.3. Listening to and accepting her influence will enhance multiple levels of intimacy. Connecting through solid communication does for your marriage what breathing does for your body. When your wife is talking with you and sharing her day, she is craving a way to connect with you on multiple levels. Her need for meaningful communication is as strong as your need for sexual intimacy.4. When you listen, you are making love to your wife. When you engage or even genuinely attempt to engage with your wife, you let her know she is loved, valued, cherished, and secure. When you can do this, she can feel drawn to you in a more profound way.Read the entire articleJohn Thurman M.Div., M.A., LPCCwww.johnthurman.infojohn@johnthurman.info504-343-2011Get your free copy of Dr. John Gottaman's How to Build Fondness and Admiration by texting the word Admire to 33777.
5 Ways to Enrich Your Communication with Your Wife
23-06-2022
5 Ways to Enrich Your Communication with Your Wife
The ability to accept your spouse’s influence means that you welcome and respect your spouse’s thoughts, ideas, impressions, insights, and feelings. Doing this allows them to help you make decisions that impact you, your family, and your relationship.When you accept their influence, you acknowledge that your spouse has a valid point of view and that you value it. It demonstrates that you are open-minded and welcome the valuable insight they bring to the marriage. Accepting their advice and influence demonstrates that they are essential, and their input is important, even when we disagree.Before reviewing the 5 ways to enrich your communications with your wife, let’s take a moment to compare health and unhealthy influence.First, do a gut check. Are you trying to score a personal victory or come up with a joint resolution?Second, listen with consideration to your partner’s point of view. After all, the Scripture reminds us:Third, remember this vital relational point: the more influence you accept, the more influential you become.Fourth, actively look for ways to say “yes.” Fifth, extend grace. First, do a gut check. Are you trying to score a personal victory or come up with a joint resolution?Second, listen with consideration to your partner’s point of view. After all, the Scripture reminds us:                                               My dearest brothers and sisters, take this to heart:                                                                 Be quick to listen but slow to speak.                                                                       And be slow to become angry,                                                                        for human anger is never                                        a legitimate tool to promote God’s righteous purpose.                                                                      James 1:19 The Passion TranslationThird, remember this vital relational point: the more influence you accept, the more influential you become.Fourth, actively look for ways to say “yes.” Fifth, extend grace.LINK to Article John Thurman505-343-2011john@johnthurman.infowww.johnthurman.info