EP 4 - Thriving In a Changing World: How values and vitality drive us to meet the challenges of a constantly changing world
Our Heroes’ story: Kim and Kayla Reid
The Heroes of today’s episode are Kim and Kayla Reid who run a community organization called On Rock. On Rock has never stopped changing in response to what its community needs. Starting with a place to buy affordable Christian rock, it grew to be a drop-in center for youth at risk, a food bank, a pay-what-you can café, and a thrift store all serving one of the poorest postal codes in Canada. Following Tim and Kayla’s story, Dr. Louise Hayes - author of What Makes You Stronger: How to Thrive in the Face of Change and Uncertainty Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy talks about values and vitality as the center of a model of thriving and change. Using the DNA-V model, Louise will help us understand how to thrive when our world is constantly changing.
2:00 Kim on the development of On Rock from a place for at risk youth to gather and hear music, to include a food bank, a pay-what-you-can café, and a thrift store.
8:00 Kayla’s passion for community work
10:00 Creating a place that is cool and is welcoming while meeting community needs
Our expert commentator: Louise Hayes - psychologist, author, ACT trainer
14:00 The model of how to help healthy people change and thrive, DNA-V: Discoverer, Noticer, and Advisor, Valuing and Vitality
17:20 Values and passions as the base for Kim and Kayla’s development of On Rock
19:40 Noticing and changing: how to overcome the feeling that I’m too small to make a difference
21:45 How values drove Kim and Kayla to the discoverer role; finding new ways to do things; moving out the comfort zone, diving in, and trying.
24:30 Values and vitality. How hero stories come from these things.
28:00 The advisor and taking risks: what we can predict and how valuing, noticing and discovering together can help take on risk
31:30 Noticing: finding ways to notice the world and notice our inner world
33:30 How to take action on values: starting small, pausing to ask what is my most important thing right now/today
35:20 How thinking about what you care about is tough; making it real
37:00 Going from thinking to action, the importance of saying it out loud, just take a step even if you don’t believe it, how tiny things grow if we suspend belief
41:30 “What will you do with your own wild and precious life” (Mary Oliver)
42:40 The importance of connecting with others, it is what we wake up for.
Dr. Louise Hayes: psychologist, trainer, author of What Makes You Stronger: How to Thrive in the Face of Change and Uncertainty Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy