Attachment Theory teaches us that humans are born with a need to form a close emotional bond with a caregiver. Our survival depends on bonding and belonging. When psychologists describe Attachment Theory today, they often explain that the type of bond you had with your caregivers when you were an infant strongly affects how you bond to people in intimate relationships as an adult. In fact, attachment theorists say that people tend to bond with sexual/romantic partners in 4 main ways: securely, anxiously, avoidantly, or chaotically (disorganized).

In this episode, trauma-informed dating coach Miriam Diana does a deep dive on the 4 main attachment styles, with a focus on anxiously attached folx. Anxious attachers tend to desire intense intimacy, reassurance, and love — but they’re prone to worry about their dating life and the people they’re dating. And if you’re an anxiously attached SensitiveSlut, watch out! Dating can feel like being pushed and pulled in different directions.

What’s the solution?

You can start by calming your nervous system with a guided meditation, which Miriam Diana provides in the latter half of the show. This exercise is great for people with any type of attachment style because it gives you a taste of how it might feel to have exactly what you desire in your love life. For the exercise, you will use your imagination and connect to your “felt sense” (how your emotions feel physically). Miriam Diana will guide you to visualize a secure attachment with someone safe — who also turns you on.

Want to connect with Miriam Diana?

Ask a question at tinyurl.com/sensitiveslutquestions and she will share her advice on the podcast! You can also inquire about coaching on Facebook — just search for “Miriam Diana Coaching.”